Islamic Concept of Expression of Sexuality

 

See, there can be two types of men or women, either very bold or shy.  Women have often been showing shame in front of their husbands as well.  Often they have been giving tacit approval on the initiative taken by their husbands.  Often women have been hesitant to tell their husbands which sex behavior they like and dislike.  I have had healthy and decent friendships with many co-workers at my workplace.  Those women told me that they expect their husbands to do and not to do this and that they wait for that behavior but are unable to tell their husbands that their husbands should consider them a unchaste woman.

Many women also reported that sometimes they have a strong desire, but if their husbands are expressing reluctance or are tired, they also try to arouse their husbands by romantic talk.  Many wives lay their heads on the chest of their husbands.

As far as the sexual expression of Muslim women in front of their husbands is concerned, Muslim wives are often afraid to express themselves directly.  They start praising their husbands for being intrinsically capable like- "You are very powerful. You are always ready. You read your wife's mind. You are not like my friend's husband.  My friend is sad all the time".

As far as the religion of Islam is concerned, Islamic texts say that wives should not be shy or intimidated in the presence of husbands for their sexual expression, but utmost attention should be paid to privacy.  Intimate moments with husband should be fully enjoyed.  If complete satisfaction is not achieved after having intercourse once, then the husband should be motivated to have intercourse again.  The wife should herself take the initiative to caress and kiss every private part of the husband.Husbands should also take care of their wife's wishes. One should not do intercourse directly, but sexual intercourse should be done only after stimulating the wife completely through love and affection. In Islam, the husband's own satisfaction during sex has been described as selfishness. Playing the role of foreplay in Islam during sexual intercourse is said to be very important. But the role of foreplay has not been placed only on the husband, but the wife has to fully cooperate with the husband during foreplay.

But the irony is that even in today's modern era, many Muslim wives are hesitant and shy to take such initiative and are seen just waiting for the expected behavior from the husband like ordinary wives.  If husbands unknowingly display sexual behavior according to the wishes of their wives, then the wives are satisfied and if in a hurry, husbands only satisfy themselves but are unable to take care of their wives, then the wives remain frustrated for the whole day and  their children become the victims of their frustration.  They scold their children for no reason and even beat them up.Muslim wives ought to  participate in the act of foreplay. In Islam, sexuality is not only considered as a means of procreation, but it has also been considered as an important process of attaining infinite pleasure. That is why such Muslim wives who do not participate in the act of foreplay, on the one hand they are deprived of unlimited happiness and on the other they spoil the mood of their husbands as well. Their husbands do not get the happiness they deserve.

In conclusion, it can be said that Muslim wives should openly express their sexual desire to their husbands.They ought to take initiatives in foreplay during love making process.  If their husbands are not ready for intercourse, then they should continue to have intercourse with their husbands by making them ready for intercourse by any means; by caressing, kissing, licking their private parts.  It should always be remembered that there is no prohibition of legal intercourse in Islamic texts but it is encouraged.